Decision Time

Jeremiah 33:3
Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known.

Let’s Move

Her perspective

“It’s time to move,”
I said to my husband.
”I don’t have the energy
to clean this big house
or to prepare for company
like I used to.
It’s time to move on.”
“What do you have in mind?” he asked.
“A retirement home.”
“I’ll think about it,” he said.
You know, Lord, that since I retired
he is more connected than I am.
Besides the church,
he has music and softball.
I have my church circle
and writing groups.
I need more people my age.
Guide us in our decision.

John 16:13
When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth; for he will not speak on his own; but will speak whatever he hears, and he will declare to you the things that are to come.



His perspective

Dear Lord, it’s come up again.
My wife wants to move
to a retirement community.
We’ve talked about this
for several years
and have even looked at places.
I know it’s a move
we should make some time,
but I’m not sure I’m ready to go.
It’s overwhelming
when I think of all the things
we’ll have to do:
decide where to go,
spruce up the house
before it goes on the market,
choose a realtor, show the house,
downsize, pack, and move.
Besides I’m comfortable
in this familiar setting.
Yet I recognize her need
for more friends and less housework.
In more than fifty years of our marriage
we’ve always resolved our differences.
Guide us as we work things out.

Psalm 31:3
You are indeed my rock and my fortress; for your name’s sake lead me and guide me.



Her perspective

Dear God, my husband and I
are at standstill.
I’m ready to move
to a retirement community.
But he isn’t.  Not yet.
I think that it’s a matter of inertia.
He’s comfortable in our house
and keeps coming up with reasons
for not moving.
That’s a change.
In our marriage he’s always
been the adventurous one:
in picking vacation places,
willingness to change jobs
for a new opportunity,
even in buying a house
that stretched our resources.
At the same time he has a cautious streak
inherited from his father.
But when he decides something,
he moves ahead with determination.
I believe that he’ll come around
if I give him a little more time.
So give me patience, dear Lord.

Romans 12:12
Rejoice in hope, be patient in suffering, persevere in prayer.



His perspective

As you already know, O Lord,
my best friend had a stroke.
He’s paralyzed on his right side
and confined to a wheel chair.
We played golf and went fishing together.
Now he’s incapacitated.
It has given me a new perspective
on moving to a retirement community.
I look at myself in a full length mirror
and ask, “Could that be me
in a few years or even next month?”
Then I would be a burden to my wife.
Maybe she will be the first
to become ill, or break a hip.
We like to think that we are indestructible,
but we’re not.
Yes, my wife is right.
It’s time to move
before we have to.
I’ll tell her.
She’ll be glad.
Thanks for letting me talk
this through with you, dear Lord.

2 Samuel 22:29
Indeed, you are my lamp, O LORD,
the LORD lightens my darkness.



Her perspective

Dear Lord, my husband has
thought it through.
He’s ready to move to a retirement community.
But now I’m not so sure.
When I think of the happy hours
on my backyard swing
in my lovely garden,
I wonder how I can ever leave.
Not to mention the antiques
I’ve collected over the years.
I know there wouldn’t be a place
for all of them.
And my four sets of china,
including my grandmother’s.
Yes, I know that Jesus sent out his disciples
without even a change of clothes,
and that our things shouldn’t define us.
But it’s memories, too.
It’s a tough decision because
it’s so final.

Mark 6:7-9
He called the twelve and began to send them out two by two, and gave them authority over the unclean spirits.  He ordered them to take nothing for their journey except a staff; no bread, no bag, no money in  their belts, but to wear sandals and not to put on two tunics.



O Lord, we’ve finally decided.
We’re going to sell our house
and move to a retirement community.
Deciding wasn’t easy,
but after 50 years of marriage
we’ve learned how
to accommodate one another.
We don’t talk about it a lot,
but love makes this possible.
Paul wrote,
love is patient and kind,
love doesn’t insist on its own way,
love bears all things but never fails.
The Bible tells of your steadfast love
for the Hebrew people over the centuries.
May your steadfast love be with us
as we begin a new life.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8a
Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth.  It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.